Remember to breath.

by Aileen van der Veer

May 17, 2026

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Before your next coaching conversation, take 3 minutes for yourself.

You carry more into conversations than you realise. Pressure, expectations and the weight of getting everything right.

This is a short moment of quiet before you go again.

There’s no theory - we’re not fixing anything - instead, we’re taking a few minutes of stillness to get steady before leading what’s in front of you.

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Put your headphones in, sit in a comfortable place, take 3 minutes to yourself.

17 May 2026

"UNSTOPPABLE", for leaders figuring it out alone

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Will see you again in two weeks.

Aileen.

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Before your next coaching conversation, take 3 minutes for yourself.

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