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What I discovered in the last 90 days

by Aileen van der Veer
Apr 08, 2026
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Over the past 90 days, I’ve been deep in coaching conversations.

A combination of participating, delivering and observing. Some moments have been impressive. Others, hard to watch.

What stood out wasn’t effort.

It was how coaching is being approached. Leaders are expected to coach, yet most are piecing it together as they go. They mirror what they’ve seen and repeat what they’ve been told; trying to fit as much “coaching” as possible into a short space of time.

The intention is right. The impact isn’t.

People being coached leave those conversations with more to think and worry about, yet nothing changes in how they work.

When conversations slow down, when attention moves closer to the detail, something different happens. Leaders begin to notice what they would usually miss and instead see moments others pass over.

That’s where change starts.

Most leaders are not short on effort, they are short on direction. Knowing where to focus, how to use time and what specifically will makes difference, is what turns coaching into performance.

Hiding behind data is easy. Leading people takes presence.

For those who are fed up going it alone and want to take their teams results and performance up to the next level look here: "Uncertain to Unstoppable".

Until next time, Aileen - Coach & Founder

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